157: Hormones, Libido and Sex with Dr John Gray

Written By Chelsea Blackbird
 
 
 

We all know that we can improve hormones through nutrition, exercise, less stress and more sleep. But did you know that you can manipulate your hormonal production by the way you spend time alone or with friends? By the kind of work that you do? By the conversations you have with your spouse?For instance, men need “cave time” so that they don’t become overly estrogenic.
Too much “task time” can make women estrogen deficient.
Being too “needy” can make women estrogen dominant.
Complaining to your husband reduces his testosterone.
Appreciating yourself can increase your progesterone. These are concepts we talk about in this week’s podcast with Dr. John Gray and that you can find in his latest book: Beyond Mars and Venus.
We also cover a lot about sex and libido so - hold on to your hat - this week’s episode might blow you away! 😅

 

EPISODE 157: Hormones, Libido and Sex with Dr John Gray

 

Show Notes

(0:00) Intro

  • Hello my friend welcome back to the club how are you today?

  • I hope you’re ready, because we’re going there today. Our topic is hormones, libido and sex. So buckle up buttercup.

  • For this topic, I had to pull out the big guns. I reached out to an expert  - THE expert on this subject - He has written over 20 books is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. His most recent one is Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills for Our Complex Modern World. I’m talking of course about none other than Dr. John Gray and I am honored he is here to share his expertise. 

(3:00) Could you lay the groundwork and give us your expertise on how to manipulate hormones through our mindset & behavior?

  • Beyond Mars and Venus

  • Mars and Venus in the Bedroom

  • Reprogramming and creating new neural pathways in the brain

  • Hormones are the result of certain activities

    • Feeling of “I have to do this” produces testosterone

    • Feeling of “I get to do this” produces estrogen

(14:54) Role of hormones and sex drive:

  • Pheromones

  • Honeymoon period produces dopamine

  • Dependability increase serotonin

  • Caring, understanding, and respect

(22:14) Digging deeper into biochemical reactions:

  • Prolactin

  • Refractory period

  • Monogamy

  • Sex addiction is sex that is lacking intimacy and love

  • Detriment of pornography

(36:40) Natural arousal:

  • Breathing

  • Balancing hot and cold

  • Slowing down, being patient, and affectionate

  • Increasing saliva

  • Increasing oxytocin is a precursor to creating more estrogen in a woman.

(44:00) Male side / Female side:

  • Reigniting a sex life

  • Being in one’s mind, body, and heart

  • Talking about sex while not having sex

  • Secrets of great sex

(53:01) What makes sex really great:

  • “Help me understand that better”

  • “Well, tell me more…”

  • Consciously using styles of communication and behavior

  • Polarity - masculine/feminine

  • Being in harmony with your sex drive

(104:18) You time, me time, we time

  • Gradual stimulation

  • Waking up greater sensitivity

  • Importance of emotions

  • Faith

  • Decline in society / gender neutrality

    • Endocrine disruptors

(1:19:02) Closing thoughts:

  • Anchor Questions:

    • Anchor meal: Eggs & rice

    • Anchor verse: When your heart is open, God’s will is written in your heart.

  • Where can people find you?

(1:21:48) Outro & Disclaimer

 

Thanks for listening! Have a healthy and blessed week!




XOXO,

Chelsea

Chelsea Blackbird
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